It is totally normal to lose interest in sex from time to time, but if you or your partner have been lacking in the libido department for a while, then you might be looking for answers!
A change in hormone levels, medication, illness, a poor sleep cycle and stress are all potential reasons for a lack of physical desire, and many of the underlying reasons for a low libido are linked to poor blood flow.
Pinpointing the problem is the first step to getting your sex life back on track. But, even if you don’t know exactly why you’re not getting in the mood, studies show that yoga can improve your sex drive! This is mostly thanks to how flowing through the asanas improves the flow of blood around the body. However, better blood flow is not the only reason that yoga is great for your libido, and the emotional advantages are key.
Practicing yoga can help you to decrease your stress levels, find peace in your mind, and to better understand yourself, your wants and your needs. As Sarah, the founder of Yogi2Me, revealed in Grazia last month, “Yoga helps us to better connect with ourselves and our partners, physically and sexually”. When you reach this place, you may soon find that your sex drive becomes more consistent and your sex life becomes everything you want it to be!
Squeeze Your Mula Bandha
Mula Bandha is a fast-track way to better sex! And, you are much more likely to hold onto your libido if you are enjoying good sex!
Mula Bandha is a yogic concept that is involved with channeling and encouraging the flow of energy through the root chakra. It also helps to tone the pelvic floor muscles, which can improve the intensity of your orgasms.
In order to apply Mula Bandha you must learn how to contract and relax the perineal muscles in sync with your breathing. You can then action this as you hold each yoga pose!
To do this, imagine that you are trying to stop the flow of your urine. The male version would be, “lifting your third leg without using your hands”, says Sarah!
Mastering Mula is the holly grail of your libido, contract for the count of 5 release and repeat 10 times!
Yoga Poses for Libido
The following poses are perfect for getting your blood flowing. You can try adding them to your existing yoga practice, or simply engaging in them daily for a few minutes!
Bound Angle Pose (Baddha Konasana)
This hip opening pose stimulates the heart, which gets the blood flowing around the body for better circulation. Holding this pose will immediately improve the blood flow to the pelvic area, and optimum blood flow in this part of your body is connected to arousal. Stay in this position for a few minutes, breathing deeply in and out as you do.
Upright Seated Angle (Urdhva Upavishta Konasana)
From your bound Angle position grab either your toes, ankle or calf and extend your legs forward. Keep balancing on your sacrum and aim to keep the legs straight. You can be hands off alike the picture above but if you hold your foot aim to push the femur back into the hip socket and draw your shoulder down to keep the balance and a straight back.
Keep mula engaged, then open the legs wide and say ‘Oh yes!’ Get in the mood!
Happy Baby (aka happy boyfriend…. or Ananda Balasana)
Now you can let go of your leg roll on your back, maybe massage your spine by rolling forward and back
Grab the outer edges of your feet and bring your knees towards your armpit, keep your back connected to the earth and feel free to roll on your sacrum towards the right and left … like a happy baby! Again don’t forget to squeeze Mula for a happy boyfriend!!!
Bridge Pose (Setu Bandha Sarvangasana)
Bridge Pose creates an intense stretch for the hips, and holding this pose actually provides some of the same benefits as doing Kegel exercises. Once you feel your buttocks engage. You can now try to apply Mula Bandha as you bring the hips slightly higher. Hold your body in this position for between four and ten deep breaths, before slowly lowering the spine back towards your mat to release and exit the pose. If Wheel is part of your practice, I would recommend to go for it here. Deep backbends are great to open your heart which is needed to enjoy intimate moments with your partner.
‘We could delve more on hip openers or backbend but I believe that few minutes of meditation has more impact’ says Sarah
Everything is mind over matter, your world is in your head and so is the status of your libido.
The science behind meditation for a better libido is simple. By meditating you release endorphins in the body and diminish stress which is the number one libido killer.
Meditation makes you feel better about yourself and more open to sex!
So don’t waste a min and sit down on the floor, sit on a pillow or a yoga block to have your hips higher than your knees. You don’t have to cross your legs like a yogi master, be comfortable and release mula (finally!). Close your eyes and focus on breath. Maybe use a timer with some background sound to help you get into the zone. I usually go for singing bowls or the sound or nature.
Thoughts will come for sure …. maybe even naughty ones!! Let them go (yes the naughty ones too – sorry), don’t judge and turn your focus back to your breath and the sensation of breathing. That’s all there is. Your skills will progress as you learn to let go of the thoughts and get back to your breath. Don’t beat yourself up if thoughts dominate and keep going, you will see quick progress if you’re consistent with your practice.
Now that you know just how helpful yoga can be for boosting the libido, are you ready to bring your mat into the bedroom to get your Sun Salutations on?!